I just found an issue of Scarlet Magazine (cheap looking website, I could make that) which I bought about two years ago now (actually, my boyfriend at the time bought it: porn was one of his research interests. Genuinely.). It billed itself as this revolutionary magazine: "Scarlet will never patronise you or support tired stereotypes; men aren't all bastards, women can (and do) enjoy porn, and we don't all dream of being a size 10."
Never patronise? In the issue I have one of the articles is entitled: "Men: are they really scared of commitment?'. In it, three men give their opinions on this. Apparently, yes they are. But just because they are scared women will make them listen to Robbie Williams and watch Friends instead of going to the pub. Right.
The 'Cliterature' (see what they did there?) we get supposedly steamy stories for women. I have no idea what woman is turned on by these, but they're laughable. Any story that refers to a man's genitilia using the word 'member' is hardly sexy, is it? And apparently we all want a tanned hunk with a six pack to dominate us. I've totally been going wrong there all these years, then. And some of the lines....I am not going to write them there, but, oh god. If anyone said any of them to me during sex, I'd laugh hysterically, pick up my clothes, and leave. Have a look at a sample here.
Moving on, the problem page PASSES JUDGEMENT on people writing in to ask about certain sex acts ("are you sure this still sounds like fun?"). Erm, very liberated there, yes. And there's an article on how, actually, giving oral sex isn't all that bad really, so women, try it! Wow, pretty daring there guys.
Add some pseudo femminism about taking back the word 'c**t' (am I the only girl not really offended by that? All it makes me think of is Simon Amstell: "I can't say that because I haven't go an umbrella." I happen to think there are bigger issues facing women today, and isn't this story a little old?) and I think I would quite like to burn this magazine in some kind of ritual.
Basically, it's 'porn' for women who think going to Anne Summer makes them a bit naughty, and who still identify with Bridget Jones is a role model (don't get me started on her. Lose some fucking weight and get a decent boyfriend! Or shut up.)
In a similar theme, I found facebook group (if you ever want to get really angry about something, just look at facebook) for 'Things men shouldn't do during sex' that has clearly been founded by a group of girls who think going on top is pretty crazy. Sadly, some of my friends are in it. What's wrong with girls today? Sex is fun, you know.
And fuck you Scarlet, I'd quite like to be a size ten as well.
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Best bit of the linked website - "Sexpertise - Master His Manhood". See also "His biceps were rippling under his shirt. He had really close cropped hair and very tanned skin. Rugged wasn't usually my thing but this guy was oozing sex appeal." and ""OK. I just need to change the tyre first. I could feel it going flat." Master his LOL more like! These things link faux-radicalism to capitalism - sex itself and all the trapping are another consumer product to be bought, used and consumed. Your creativity sexually is conformed to a variety of pre-set ritualistic kinky acts - eg the stuff you can BUY at Anne Summers. No imagination is required, it can be bought. And men, naturally, are incredibly passive in this situation, but mainly because their idea of foreplay revolves around timing it with a stopwatch. And the "erotica", which is really porn of the worst kind ie completely devoid of anything approaching the erotic, is as you say, laughable - its hardly Anis Nin is it. Where is the well, anything sexy really, other than some trite cliches. So radical is it that they fubar cunt and use something like "bum cheeks" and "my legs all wobbly". My, my.
(Second) best feminist blog entry goes to Infinite Thought, on a similar tip - http://www.cinestatic.com/infinitethought/2007/04/two-sides-of-same-con.asp
As per usual, you've summed everything up in a far more eloquent way than I ever could, but this is ok as I am a scientist and can't do words, like. Also, I have no idea what I'm talking about, have never read anything on femminism and this whole blog is just my opinions. Based on erm, me.
Anne Summers makes me physically ill. It's the least sexy place in the world, and they don't even do bras in my size. Like flat chested women ever have sex (I am joking.)
Chocolate is more exciting than kissing? They've clearly been kissing the wrong people.
The depressing thing is, I know so many women who would find that magazine risque. They're the same girls who made me feel really, really bad about my sexual preferences (they're not even remotely bad) and generally just didn't seem to be remotely in touch with their sexuality.
I have a point to make, but I can't quite express it the way I'd like to. This is a frequent problem.
Yeh check out ITs post above and tell me what you think its well good etc.
As I said, people who find this magazine risque are subscribing to a commodified vision of what is risque. If they read some Georges Bataille, they would be proper appauled (and probably rightly, he is a mentalist). Story of The Eye etc.
Apparently, that kissing study had a very low, low sample group and hence is about as scientific valid as a paper bag.
Why do I know the name Georges Bataille? Iain must have gone on about him or something.
"hence is about as scientific valid as a paper bag." LOL. I am getting that phrase into my dissertation (the current draft of chapter two contains the line 'fucking about with sug1' so I can't see a problem)
I am going to read that post..now. Rather than scan read it, which is what I usually do with everything and why I only start understanding things the fifteenth time I read them.
He's a messed up bastard for sure that Bataille. I remember someone in one of our lectures being really bloody *shocked* when John Milbank semi-gleefully told them all about his various deviances (the story of the eye, human sacrifice societies, pictures of people being killed with the death of a thousand cuts, tortured basically). Interesting take on religion mind...
Yeah, wikipedia is letting me know all about him now, though turns out I was already familiar with him. "The pair have sex next to her corpse" is my favourite line in the description of the story of the eye so far. These (lapsed) Catholics and their weird sex...
I read much, much worse during my relationship with Iain- he had some fucked up books. There was a particular publishing house that he had some anthologies from- they genuinely disturbed me, and it usually takes quite a lot. It's going to bother me if I can't remember the name of that now, I'll have to ask. You probably know.
My knowledge of deviant literature is fairly limited. De Sade? There is a great quote from David Bentley Hart about De Sade somewhere in my bookmarks.
That IT post is great. I wish I had enough time to read as much as I wanted. At the moment the only knowledge I have is of my subject, and that's pretty limited. I've wanted to read some femminist literature for a while now, but I wouldn't even know where to start. I'm gradually building up a reading list for when I finish my exams. I'm sure a degree shouldn't be getting in the way of what you really want to do. Sigh.
Just looking up Anis Nin now.
Here he is:
We live at a time, after all, when even the humanities departments in our universities are frequently populated by scholars of rather exiguous learning, who think that épater les bourgeoises is a significant cultural and moral achievement, and who—in their insatiable craving for ever greater frissons of the subversive—can make an “artist,” “philosopher,” and “martyr” out of an ineffably tedious mediocrity like the Marquis de Sade.
And if you have read any Sade, although disturbing, his books are basically shit. Which is a description he would have liked.
Nah, it wasn't de Sade. I've read de Sade. This was really fucked up. I'm going to find it and show it to you. It was a collection of essays. Some of them were perfectly normal: ok, about paedophilia, but not disturbing as such. I'm going to search now, or it'll keep bothering me. I used to read so much...sigh.
And if you have read any Sade, although disturbing, his books are basically shit. Which is a description he would have liked
Lol. And agreed. I didn't even find it that disturbing. I got a bit bored, as well.
Its Anais Nin by the way. I have read some of this, and it is hot. (in places)
Well, you misspelt it in the first place. Have you got any you can lend me?
http://www.geocities.com/arsenio_grilo/a_nin_1.html
As I remembered - its pretty hot.
"My mouth wants you, I want to feel you in my mouth, way deep down in my mouth."
Damn. This is hot.
16 posts..remember I read this too, this isnt an alex and tammy exclusive blog :P haha.
Is it names after a Grates song btw?
by names i clearly mean named
Yes, possibly should have deleted some of the above comments...lol.
I haven't done any work. Argh. x
Oh, and it is named after a grates song, yes!
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